Is a First Look Right for You? Everything You Need to Know
If you’re planning your wedding, chances are you’ve heard about “first looks.” It’s a newer wedding tradition that has gained popularity for good reason. But is a first look the right choice for you? Let’s explore what a first look is, why it might be a good fit, and how it can shape your wedding day timeline.
What Is a First Look?
A first look is a private moment between the bride and groom before the ceremony. It’s a chance for you and your partner to see each other for the first time in a quiet, intimate setting usually away from the crowd of guests. A photographer (and sometimes a videographer) captures the raw emotion, from the tears to the laughter, in real-time. This moment can feel just as special as the traditional walk down the aisle, but it offers a different kind of connection! One that as a photographer I have LOVED having the opportunity to capture again and again.
Why a First Look Might Be Right for You
1. A Private Moment Together
Share a quiet, special moment just the two of you before the whirlwind begins! This allows you both to just take a quick breath together!
2. Capture Real Emotion
The raw, genuine reaction of seeing each other for the first time can create unforgettable photos. Like… make your great grandkids cry kind of photos.
3. Ease Your Nerves
Wedding day jitters are real. Seeing your partner before the ceremony can ease some of the nerves. Many couples find that spending a few quiet moments together helps them feel grounded and connected before the big event. It just kind of takes the pressure off, know what I mean?
4. Enjoy More Time Together
Wedding days can fly by in a blur, and it’s surprisingly rare to find alone time with your partner. Like… RARE RARE. A first look allows you to have a moment just for the two of you. If you want to make time for just the two of you during your wedding day, I highly recommend a first look for this reason!
5. You Want Less Photo Time After the Ceremony
A first look can free up your schedule later in the day. With portraits, wedding party photos, and even family pictures taken care of before the ceremony, you can enjoy cocktail hour with your guests instead of being whisked away for photos.
While a first look offers many benefits, let’s weigh the pros and cons before making your decision!
Pros and Cons of a First Look
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| Calms wedding day nerves | May feel less traditional |
| Creates a private, emotional moment | Requires adjusting the timeline, but this could also be a pro? |
| Allows for more photos and flexibility | Some couples prefer the ceremony moment instead |
| Frees up time to enjoy cocktail hour | |
| Opportunity for personalized vows or gifts |
At this point if you are leaning more toward having a first look, I’ve listed out a few tips to ensure your first look goes off without a hitch!
Pro Tips for a Successful First Look
1. Choose the Right Location
Your choice: Pick a spot that feels intimate and reflects your personalities. It could be under a gorgeous tree, on a scenic overlook, or in a quiet room at your venue. Maybe it’s a spot that has strong sentimental value to you or your partner!
Photographer’s choice: You can also opt to entrust choosing the location to your photographer! They will know the best spots that will complement your vision and offer the right lighting and atmosphere for your first look. A skilled photographer can scout the area ahead of time to ensure privacy and beautiful backdrops, taking into account factors like lighting, crowd flow, and the overall mood you want to capture.
2. Personalize the Moment
Consider writing private vows or exchanging small gifts during the first look. These touches make the moment even more meaningful. Not sure what would be a good gift? Consider a hand written note, jewelry, or a small keepsake!
3. Schedule It at the Right Time
Plan your first look when the lighting is soft and flattering, typically mid-morning or early afternoon. Your photographer can also take the wheel on this one if you wish!
4. Communicate with Your Photographer
Share your vision with your photographer so they can guide you through the moment and capture it authentically.
5. Be Present
Embrace the moment fully and let the emotions flow. Don’t be afraid to cry! It’s a memory you’ll cherish forever, so don’t be afraid to be in your feels. Don’t worry about the photographer or videographer capturing the moment. Just be present and ENJOY!
While these tips will help make your first look with your partner unforgettable, remember that the magic of a first look can extend beyond just the bride and groom. Let’s talk about how you can share this special moment with other important people in your life!
First Looks Aren’t Just for Brides and Grooms
A first look doesn’t have to be just for the bride and groom! There are other meaningful options to include a first look in your day:
- Parent First Look: Share a heartfelt moment with your mom, dad, or both as they see you in your wedding attire for the first time.
- Bridal Party First Look: Let your bridesmaids or groomsmen have a special reveal moment. It’s perfect for capturing their excitement and support.
- Sibling First Look: If you’re especially close to a sibling, this can be a touching way to honor your relationship.
- Child First Look: For couples with children, a first look with your kids can be an emotional and joyful part of the day.
These moments add depth to your wedding story and create even more opportunities for meaningful photos.
Choosing to have a first look is a deeply personal decision, and with the right photographer by your side, you can make the most of this emotional moment on your wedding day! That’s why I want to talk to you about why the right photographer MATTERS!!
Why the Right Photographer Matters for a First Look
A first look is an intimate, emotional moment and having the right photographer can make all the difference in the world! Here’s why:
- Experience Matters: A skilled photographer knows how to guide you through the moment naturally without making it feel staged. As your photographer, I will make sure this doesn’t feel like a performance for you!
- Eye for Detail: Capturing the subtle expressions, tears, and laughter requires a photographer with a sharp eye for storytelling.
- Comfort and Trust: Feeling at ease with your photographer ensures you can relax and focus on each other during the first look.
- Flexibility: A great photographer can adapt to changing timelines or lighting conditions to ensure your first look is perfectly documented. It pays to be an experienced photographer who has the ability to think on their feet!
When you choose a photographer who values authentic, storytelling moments, your first look will be beautifully preserved as a cherished memory! We love our couples and whether you choose to do opt for the first look or opt out, we’re there for you!!
Final Thoughts
Ultimately, the choice to do a first look comes down to your personal preferences and priorities. Whether you’re looking to calm nerves, maximize time with your guests, or simply enjoy a private moment with your partner, a first look can be a beautiful addition to your wedding day.
If you’re still unsure, let’s chat! As a West Virginia and Virginia wedding photographer, I’ve helped countless couples create timelines that perfectly suit their vision. I’d love to help you make the best decision for your day.
With love,
~ Melena
